Modern Western society thrives on undermining a mothers' sense of ability to mother. Her apparent ineptitude keeps the capitalist cogs turning - the baby isle of ones local pharmacy is testament to this. Equally, ‘self-help’ mothering books perpetuate implicitly that a woman is incapable of gestating a foetus, delivering a baby and caring for a child without some form of intervention (in spite of the fact that humans have created other humans for 200 000 years).

I was given some books about how to be a mother and they did a wonderful job of making me feel totally incompetent. It’s been 4 years since the birth of my first child and 2 years since the birth of my second (yes, I’ve got a long way to go), but I have since come to the realisation that there was, and is, nothing wrong with me, there is just something wrong with society.

So I burned all my books on mothering, and with the ashes I have created an ink with which to write a new book.

The book is called The New Book of Mothering and all mothers are invited to use the ink to help write the book; to pen their own musings and anecdotes about their mothering experiences so that we may write our own history.

At the bottom of this page is a Bibliography of Unhelpful Mothering Books. If you would like to add an unhelpful mothering book to the bibliography please contact me via the form below.

Book Burning

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Making the Ink

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Bibliography of Unhelpful Mothering Books

            

Acredolo, Linda P., Susan Goodwyn, and Douglas Abrams. Baby Signs: How to Talk with Your Baby before Your Baby Can Talk. Chicago: Contemporary Books, 2002.            

Adamany, Karrie. Post-pregnancy Pilates: An Essential Guide for a Fit Body after Baby. New York: Avery, 2005.             

Addey, Melissa. 100 Things to Do While Breastfeeding. England: Letterpress Publishing, 2015.             

Alexander, Jessica Joelle, and Iben Sandahl. The Danish Way of Parenting: What the Happiest People in the World Know about Raising Confident, Capable Kids. London: Piatkus, 2016.             

Au, Michelle. This Won't Hurt a Bit (and Other White Lies): My Education in Medicine and Motherhood. New York: Grand Central Pub., 2011.            

Austin, Denise. Denise Austin's Ultimate Pregnancy Book: How to Stay Fit and Healthy through the Nine Months--and Shape up after Baby. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1999.             

Becker, Gavin De. Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane). New York: Dial Press, 1999.            

Bing, Elisabeth, and Libby Lee. Colman. Losing Weight after Pregnancy: A Step-by-step Guide to Postpartum Fitness. New York: Hyperion, 1994.             

Boggs, Belle. The Art of Waiting--: On Fertility, Medicine, and Motherhood. Minneapolis, MN: Graywolf Press, 2016.             

Bombeck, Erma. Motherhood, the Second Oldest Profession. New York: McGraw-Hill, 1983.             

Brin, Lindsay. How to Exercise When You're Expecting: For the 9 Months of Pregnancy and the 5 Months It Takes to Get Your Best Body Back. New York: Penguin Group, 2011.             

Buckingham, Jane, and Jen Furmaniak. The Modern Girl's Guide to Motherhood. New York: Reagan Books, 2006.            

Camp, Kim. Fit to Be Mom: Gaining Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual Balance in Pregnancy and Motherhood. Nashville, TN: Broadman & Holman Publishers, 1996.            

Carlson, Richard. The Don't Sweat Guide to Pregnancy: Making the Most of the Months before the Baby. New York: Hyperion, 2004.            

Chapman, Gary D., and Ross Campbell. The 5 Love Languages of Children. Chicago: Northfield Pub., 2012.            

Chua, Amy. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother. New York: Penguin Press, 2011.            

Clapp, James F. Exercising through Your Pregnancy. Omaha, Neb: Addicus Books, 2002.             

Clarkson, Sally. The Mission of Motherhood: Touching Your Child's Heart for Eternity. Colorado Springs, CO: WaterBrook Press, 2003.             

Cline, Foster, and Jim Fay. Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility. Colorado Springs, CO: Piñon Press, 2006.             

Cooke, Kaz. Up the Duff: The Real Guide to Pregnancy. Ringwood, Vic.: Viking, 1999.             

Cooke, Kaz. The Rough Guide to Pregnancy and Birth. London: Rough Guides, 2006.             

Cooke, Kaz. Pregnancy Decisions: Know Your Options. Surry Hills, N.S.W.: Penguin Books, 2013.             

Cram, Catherine, and Tere Stouffer. Fit Pregnancy for Dummies. Hoboken, NJ: Wiley Pub., 2004.             

Daheim, Mary, Carolyn Hart, Jane Isenberg, and Shirley Rousseau. Murphy. Motherhood Is Murder. New York, NY: Avon Books, 2003.             

Davis, Laura, and Janis Keyser. Becoming the Parent You Want to Be: A Source Book of Strategies for the First Five Years. New York: Broadway Books, 1997.             

Day, Jill. Breastfeeding ... Naturally. East Malvern, Vic.: Australian Breastfeeding Association, 2004.             

Delisle, Guy, and Helge Dascher. A User's Guide to Neglectful Parenting. Canada: Drawn & Quarterly, 2013.             

Dobson, James C. Bringing up Boys. Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 2001.             

Dobson, James C. Bringing up Girls. Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 2010.             

Dreikurs, Rudolf, and Vicki Soltz. Children: The Challenge. New York: Duell, Sloan & Pearce, 1964.             

Druckerman, Pamela. French Children Don't Throw Food. London: Doubleday, 2012.             

Druckerman, Pamela. Bringing up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting. New York: Penguin Press, 2012.             

Eanes, Rebecca. Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide. New York: Tarcher Perigee Book, 2016.            

Faulkner, Jeanne. Common Sense Pregnancy: Navigating a Healthy Pregnancy & Birth for Mother & Baby. Berkeley: Ten Speed Press, 2015.             

Feliciani, Mary, and Rose Tingyi. Big and Small in the Mirror. Mississauga, Ontario: M.F. Publishing, 2015.             

Ferber, Richard. Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems. New York: Fireside Book, 2006.             

Fit Pregnancy. New York, N.Y.:American Media Inc.             

Ford, Gina. The Contented Little Baby Book: The Simple Secrets of Calm, Confident Parenting. New York: New American Library, 2001.             

Ford, Gina, and Gina Ford. The Contented Toddler Years. London: Vermilion, 2006.             

Francis-Cheung, Theresa. Pregnancy Weight Management: Before, During, and after. Holbrook, MA: Adams Media, 2000.             

Freedman, Françoise Barbira, and Doriel Hall. Yoga for Pregnancy. London: Ward Lock, 1998.             

Freedman, Francoise Barbira, and Doriel Hall. Step-by-step Yoga for Conception, Pregnancy, Birth and beyond. London: Lorenz Books, 2014.              

Furman, Gloria. Missional Motherhood: The Everyday Ministry of Motherhood in the Grand Plan of God. Wheaton, IL: Crossway, 2016.             

Gaskin, Ina May. Ina May's Guide to Breastfeeding. New York: Bantam Books, 2009.             

Ginott, Haim G., Alice Ginott, and H. Wallace. Goddard. Between Parent and Child: The Bestselling Classic That Revolutionized Parent-child Communication. New York: Three Rivers Press, 2003.            

González, Marta Alvarez. The Art of Motherhood. Los Angeles: J. Paul Getty Museum, 2010.            

Gordon, Thomas. Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children. New York: Three Rivers Press, 2000.             

Greene, Ross W. The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, "chronically Inflexible" Children. New York: HarperCollins Publishers, 1998.             

Gross-Loh, Christine. Parenting without Borders: Surprising Lessons Parents around the World Can Teach Us. New York: Avery, 2013.             

Hall, Tizzie. Save Our Sleep: Helping Your Baby to Sleep through the Night, from Birth to Two Years. London: Vermilion, 2010.             

Harms, Roger W. Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy. New York: HarperResource, 2004.             

Hodgkinson, Tom. The Idle Parent: Why Laid-back Parents Raise Happier and Healthier Kids. New York: Jeremy P. Tarcher/Penguin, 2010.             

Holinger, Paul C., and Kalia Doner. What Babies Say before They Can Talk: The Nine Signals Infants Use to Express Their Feelings. New York: Simon & Schuster, 2003.            

Hollowell, Monique. Bellie Fit Basics: The Ultimate Guide for a Fit Pregnancy and Fabulous Recovery. New York: IUniverse, 2009.              

Iovine, Vicki. The Girlfriends' Guide to Surviving the First Year of Motherhood: Wise and Witty Advice on Everything from Coping with Postpartum Mood Swings to Salvaging Your Sex Life to Fitting into That Favorite Pair of Jeans. New York: Berkley Pub. Group, 1997.             

Jankovic, Rachel. Loving the Little Years: Motherhood in the Trenches. Moscow, ID: Canon Press, 2010.            

Kabat-Zinn, Myla, and Jon Kabat-Zinn. Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting. New York: Hyperion, 1997.             

Karp, Harvey. The Happiest Baby on the Block: The New Way to Calm Crying and Help Your Newborn Baby Sleep Longer. New York: Bantam Books, 2015.    

Kendrick, Stephen, Alex Kendrick, and Lawrence Kimbrough. The Love Dare for Parents. Nashville, TN: B & H Books, 2013.             

Kilmartin, Laurie. Sh*tty Mom: The Parenting Guide for the Rest of Us. New York: Abrams Image, 2012.             

Kimmel, Tim. Grace-based Parenting: Set Your Family Free. Nashville, TN: W Pub. Group, 2004.             

Kirkman, Rick, and Jerry Scott. Motherhood Is Not for Wimps. Kansas City, MO: Andrews McMeel Pub., 2001.             

Kohn, Alfie. Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason. New York: Atria Books, 2005.             

Kurcinka, Mary Sheedy. Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles: Winning for a Lifetime. New York: HarperCollins Publishers, 2000.             

Kurcinka, Mary Sheedy. Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic. New York, NY: William Morrow, an Imprint of HarperCollins Publishers, 2015.           

Laditan, Bunmi. The Honest Toddler: A Child's Guide to Parenting. New York: Scribner, 2013.     

Land, Amber. Yoga for Pregnancy. London: New Holland, 2003.             

Latham, Glenn. The Power of Positive Parenting: A Wonderful Way to Raise Children. North Logan, UT: P & T Ink, 1994.             

Lee, Tara, and Mary Atwood. Pregnancy Health Yoga: Your Essential Guide for Bump, Birth and beyond. London: Duncan Baird Publishers, 2013.             

Lite, Lori. Stress Free Kids: A Parent's Guide to Helping Build Self-esteem, Manage Stress, and Reduce Anxiety in Children. Avon, MA: Adams Media, 2014.             

London, Joan. The Good Parents. New York: Black Cat, 2008.             

Lundgren, Chris. Runner's World Guide to Running & Pregnancy: How to Stay Fit, Keep Safe, and Have a Healthy Baby. Emmaus, PA: Rodale, 2003.             

Magee, Samantha. Pregnancy Yoga. London: Bloomsbury Sport, 2013.             

Mallett, Tracey. Super Fit Mama: Stay Fit during Pregnancy and Get Your Body Back after Baby. Cambridge, MA: Da Capo Press, 2009.             

Markham, Laura. Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting. New York, NY: Perigee Book, 2012.             

Mary, Bacon. Pregnant, Fit and Fabulous: Your Complete Guide to Exercise Before, during and after Pregnancy. Issaquah, WA: Made For Wellness Publishing, 2016.             

McCarthy, Jenny. Life Laughs: The Naked Truth about Motherhood, Marriage, and Moving on. New York: Dutton, 2006. 

McClure, Vimala Schneider, and Laozi. The Tao of Motherhood. Novato, CA: New World Library, 2011.           

McGowan, Dale. Raising Freethinkers: A Practical Guide for Parenting beyond Belief. New York: AMACOM, American Management Association, 2009.           

Meek, Joan Younger., and Sherill Tippins. American Academy of Pediatrics New Mother's Guide to Breastfeeding. New York: Bantam Books, 2002.             

Merwe, Paul Van Der. Lucky Go Happy: Make Happiness Happen! Pretoria: Paul Van Der Merwe, 2014.             

Miller, Karen Maezen. Momma Zen: Walking the Crooked Path of Motherhood. Boston: Shambhala, 2006.             

Mohrbacher, Nancy, and Kathleen A. Kendall-Tackett. Breastfeeding Made Simple: Seven Natural Laws for Nursing Mothers. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2010.             

Mugridge, Rebecca. The Pram Diet. North Sydney, N.S.W.: Random House, 2009.          

Nathman, Avital Norman. The Good Mother Myth: Redefining Motherhood to Fit Reality. Berkeley, CA: Seal Press, 2013.             

Neifert, Marianne R. Great Expectations: The Essential Guide to Breastfeeding. New York: Sterling, 2009.             

Neufeld, Gordon, and Gabor Maté. Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More than Peers. New York: Ballantine Books, 2005.            

Newman, Jack, and Teresa Pitman. The Ultimate Breastfeeding Book of Answers: The Most Comprehensive Problem-solution Guide to Breastfeeding from the Foremost Expert in North America. New York, NY: Three Rivers Press, 2000.           

Newman, Jack, and Teresa Pitman. Dr. Jack Newman's Guide to Breastfeeding. Toronto: HarperCollins Publishers, 2003.            

Noble, Elizabeth. Essential Exercises for the Childbearing Year: A Guide to Health and Comfort before and after Your Baby Is Born. Boston: Houghton Mifflin, 1982.            

Payne, Kim John., and Lisa M. Ross. Simplicity Parenting:. New York: Ballantine Books, 2009.          

Perkins, Sharon, and Carol Vannais. Breastfeeding for Dummies. Hoboken, NJ: Wiley Pub., 2004.            

Perry, Marta. Mission: Motherhood. New York: Steeple Hill, 2008.            

Pinto, Kristina, and Rachel Kramer. Fit and Healthy Pregnancy: How to Stay Strong and in Shape for You and Your Baby. Boulder, CO: Velo Press, 2013.             

Pryor, Gale, and Kathleen Huggins. Nursing Mother, Working Mother: The Essential Guide to Breastfeeding Your Baby before and after You Return to Work. Boston, MA: Harvard Common Press, 2007.            

Radiante, Thalia. Thalia Radiante: The Ultimate Guide to a Fit and Fabulous Pregnancy. San Francisco, CA: Chronicle, 2009.             

Riley, Laura. You & Your Baby Pregnancy: The Ultimate Week-by-week Pregnancy Guide. Des Moines, IA: Merh Books, 2006.

Runkel, Hal Edward. Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool. Colorado Springs, CO: WaterBrook Press, 2007.             

Ryle, J. C. The Duties of Parents. Sand Springs, OK: Grace & Truth Books, 2002.           

Sheldon, Stephen H., Richard Ferber, and Meir H. Kryger. Principles and Practice of Pediatric Sleep Medicine. Philadelphia: Saunders, 2005.            

Siegel, Daniel J., and Mary Hartzell. Parenting from the inside Out: How a Deeper Self-understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive. New York: J.P. Tarcher/Putnam, 2003.             

Small, Merh F. Our Babies, Ourselves: How Biology and Culture Shape the Way We Parent. New York: Anchor Books, 1999.          

Smokler, Jill. Confessions of a Scary Mommy: An Honest and Irreverent Look at Motherhood: The Good, the Bad, and the Scary. New York: Gallery Book, 2012.           

Smokler, Jill. Motherhood Comes Naturally (and Other Vicious Lies). New York: Gallery Books, 2013.            

Spangler, Amy. Amy Spangler's Breastfeeding: A Parent's Guide. Atlanta: Amy Spangler, 1995.            

Stone, Joanne, Keith Eddleman, and Mary Duenwald. Pregnancy for Dummies. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons, 2009.          

Sunderland, Margot. Science of Parenting: Practical Guidance on Sleep, Crying, Play, and Building Emotional Well-being for Life. New York: Dorling Kindersley, 2006.          

Sweetland, Darlene, and Ronald A. Stolberg. Teaching Kids to Think: Raising Confident, Independent, & Thoughtful Children in an Age of Instant Gratification. Naperville, IL: Sourcebooks, 2015.

Tamaro, Janet. So That's What They're For!: The Definitive Breastfeeding Guide. Avon, MA: Adams Media, 2005.             

Teasdill, Wendy. Step-by-step Yoga for Pregnancy. Lincolnwood, IL: Contemporary Books, 1999.          

Tobin, Cathryn. The Lull-a-baby Sleep Plan: The Soothing, Superfast Way to Help Your New Baby Sleep through the Night ... and Prevent Sleep Problems before They Develop. Emmaus, PA: Rodale, 2006.            

Tsabary, Shefali. The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children. Vancouver: Namaste Pub., 2010.             

Valenti, Jessica. Why Have Kids?: A New Mom Explores the Truth about Parenting and Happiness. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2012.            

Walker, Rebecca. Baby Love: Choosing Motherhood after a Lifetime of Ambivalence. New York: Riverhead Books, 2007.            

Warner, Judith. Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety. New York: Riverhead Books, 2005.            

Weissbluth, Marc. Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child: A Step-by-step Program for a Good Night's Sleep. New York: Ballantine Books, 2005.             

Weller, Stella. Easy Pregnancy with Yoga. Wellingborough, Northamptonshire, England: Thorsons, 1991.             

West, Diana, and Lisa Marasco. The Breastfeeding Mother's Guide to Making More Milk. New York: McGraw-Hill, 2009.

Wiessinger, Diane. Sweet Sleep: Nighttime and Naptime Strategies for the Breastfeeding Family. New York: Ballantine Books, 2014.

Willick, Erica. Your Fit Pregnancy: Nutrition & Exercise Handbook. New York: Sterling, 2016.

Your Complete Guide to a Fit Pregnancy. Dubuque, IA: McGraw-Hill Contemporary Learning, 2008.

 

 

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